How many times have you felt that you need to give your relationship a boost? How many times you felt that now it is the time to make your relationship more exciting? Relationships and Empowerment Coach Nizar Saab offers the only advice you need you keep that spark alight.
Unwind, relax and follow the below top 10 tips to give your relationship that extra boost it needs – it’s more enjoyable than you think. You’ll be back on track in no time.
1. BRUSH UP ON YOUR DATING SKILLS
No matter how long you are in your relationship it is always good to look into new ways for nurturing your dating skills. This could be simply focusing on your appearance, choosing new and cool places to visit with your partner or finding a common hobby. This could make the difference between a boring relationship and a relationship that your partner could not resist and as a woman you know that you have plenty of skills far beyond your wild imagination!
2. TRY SOME COUPLES GAMES
The list is endless when it comes to couples games and you can be more creative and play each game in a different way each time. This will maintain the spark in your relationship and keep it exciting and irresistible.
Examples of couples games that don’t need much time, effort or objects are ‘the two boxes’ game that involves participating in a competition based on love concepts/body parts and commands, ‘the spoon’ that includes a tasting competition where orders should be followed in either winning or losing situations.
3. BUILD BEDROOM EXCITEMENT
Your bedroom environment is crucial to maintain a happy and exciting relationship. This includes paying close attention to room colours, lighting, placing couples photos in various locations, moving electronic devices/mobile phones/tablets/laptops to another room, clearing the area below your bed from various tools, equipments and possessions.
4. SMILE OFTEN
Smiling should be part of your daily life and you need to remember that your partner deserves your smile more than anybody else. So, be generous and maintain a happy face.
5. GET HIM A GIFT
This could be simply his favourite perfume, pen or book and could have significant impact on your partner and help to maintain a healthy and happy relationship.
6. MAKE ‘ACTIVE’ LISTENING A DAILY HABIT
We always forget the difference between hearing and listening and we are most of the time not paying attention to what the partner is trying to say and putting more attention on what we want to say next.
Active listening involves listening with full attention and interest, trying to understand the partner’s point of view, needs, wants, worries and interests.
You may find that most of your problems could be solved if you only lend a listening ear and show your partner a little care, interest and willingness to listen more than just continue to talk and talk and talk.
7. DELAY YOUR RESPONSES
No matter how annoying your partner dialogue is try, as much as you can, to delay your response, listen to him to the end, try to understand his point of view and count from one to five before responding or respond to the conversation in another time.
In this way, you can avoid complicating the issue or creating new issues and it only takes few minutes of trying to understand what is really upsetting your partner and what he is really trying to say.
8. AVOID ARGUING AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
Arguing could not only lead to more issues but to destroying your relationship no matter how strong it is or how hard you try to maintain it. Arguing could complicate the issue, lead to new problems, bring to your attention old problems or memories you don’t want to recall or beliefs/ideas that are no longer serving you.
So, try as much as you can to avoid arguing and remember that you can improve your listening skills with some practice and patience while maintaining sincere desire to understand your partner needs and wants, fears and concerns
9. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR TRANSITION PERIODS
Your partner could be witnessing challenging situations in his career such as having a new role or moving to a new job or you may be moving to a new place or having a new baby.
Such situations might put additional pressure and should be handled carefully and the key point here is to understand, embrace and maintain effective communication.
10. SETTING PRIORITIES
Both of you could be having different ambitions and interests at the same time and the key here is to set priorities for each period, revisit this from time to time and ensure that you always have the time and space to nurture your relationship and keep it fresh.
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