“We grew so far apart that we no longer knew why were together.”

We’ve long followed Khalid Al Ameri’s humorous and heartstring-pulling Instagram account.

The Emirati columnist, motivational speaker and youth coach has amassed more than 90,000 followers with his insightful snaps and sage words on family life.

However the writer has admitted his life isn’t always picture-perfect in a recent post, offering some inspirational advice to fellow couples who may feel like they’ve lost their way.

Al Ameri and his wife Salama – who share two children – have been married for 10 years, and regularly share a glimpse of their day-to-day life on their YouTube channel.

 

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But the couple have had their ups and downs, Al Ameri reveals, telling his followers recently that “the greatest thing you can do for yourself and for your relationship is to silence the noise”.

“For so long Salama and I’s marriage wasn’t our marriage, it was everyone else’s,” Al Ameri posted on Instagram last week.

“It was relatives who told us what was best, it was ‘friends’ who told us what we should do come out the strongest amongst each other, it was people we didn’t even know that we were trying to be like because they fit in.”

The Prophet Muhammed ﷺ said “There is nothing like marriage, for two who love each other”. This line made me think about the love between two people when they get married and the things that can get in the way of that love. __ I think the greatest thing you can do for yourself and for your relationship is to silence the noise. The noise being everything that people tell you that doesn’t feel right in your heart, everything that doesn’t help you grow as a person, and everything that doesn’t help you get closer to the people you love. __ For so long Salama and I’s marriage wasn’t our marriage, it was everyone else’s, it was relatives who told us what was best, it was “friends” who told us what we should do come out the strongest amongst each other, it was people we didn’t even know that we were trying to be like because they fit in. __ We grew so far apart that we no longer knew why were together, it was the lowest point of our marriage, until we decided to try something new, and that was to put ourselves and our love for each other first, and everything else second. We were going to do what we felt was right, we were going to do what brought us closer together, we were going to do what made us happy regardless of what other people said or thought about us. We turned off the noise. __ It was the single greatest thing we did for our relationship, we made our marriage our marriage, and nobody else’s, because at the end of the day we are the ones who came together to build a life with each other, we are the ones who wake up and go to sleep next to each other every day and every night, we are the ones who want to be together for the rest of our lives, just us together, with a love stronger that the noise of others. الحمدلله

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The speaker, who holds a MBA from Stanford University, admitted that he and his wife “grew so far apart that we no longer knew why were together”.

“It was the lowest point of our marriage, until we decided to try something new, and that was to put ourselves and our love for each other first, and everything else second,” he said.

“We were going to do what we felt was right, we were going to do what brought us closer together, we were going to do what made us happy regardless of what other people said or thought about us. We turned off the noise.”

Al Ameri’s wise words led to an outpouring of admiration from fans, with many lauding he and his wife for their #couplegoals.

“It was the single greatest thing we did for our relationship, we made our marriage our marriage, and nobody else’s, because at the end of the day we are the ones who came together to build a life with each other,” he wrote.

“We are the ones who wake up and go to sleep next to each other every day and every night, we are the ones who want to be together for the rest of our lives, just us together, with a love stronger that the noise of others.”

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Salama advised in a recent vlog that “tolerance” is key in any marriage, and later revealed that the most annoying thing her husband does is “leave a wet towel on the bed, and it wets the bed”.

“He also takes my good spot on the sofa when we watch TV,” she added.

Al Ameri has also penned a blog post on the topic of keeping a marriage happy, urging spouses to make small gestures and “take every opportunity to be kind and good”.

“It could be a simple rose, a hug, a walk on the beach, telling them how proud you are of them, just doing whatever you can to be a source of joy in the relationship, to make them smile and know that you feel blessed every minute they are in your life.”

That’s advice we can definitely live by.

We’ll leave you with some of our favourite snaps from the pair…

You’re the best decision I’ve ever made.

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Some people call it dating, we call it In-N-Outing 🍔❤️

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الحمدلله ❤️✨

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Me: How’s your food? Salama: It’s great thanks! Me: Can I try some? Salama:

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When I count my blessings, I count you twice، الحمدلله.

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